This has been a problem for me since middle school. I was the shortest and scrawniest kid in my entire grade and to make matters worse my Grandma dressed me like a dorky kid from the 50’s. I was too scared to talk to anyone, and as a result, I was friendless.
There are few people I talk to that actually practice energy management. When I talk to people about what they do for rest (which is vital to energy management) their answer is typically TV and twitter/FB . A good rest period means not only doing activities you enjoy but also ones that reenergize you.
Recently on Facebook, someone gave advice to a person who wanted commit suicide, he was all positive and giving nice advice and when to his shock the guy lashed out at him and got angry. He responded in turn and the conversation ended with him saying “Ya you do suck. Maybe you should kill yourself”
Thinking is expensive. It costs time, energy, stress and potential opportunity. We spend all this time in deliberation in the hopes of just a little bit more accuracy. What if that extra bit of accuracy isn't worth it?
I’ve always struggled with taking action and I often placed the blame on myself: I wasn’t strong enough, disciplined enough, good enough, etc.. Eventually I started to question this mindset. Was there another explanation for why I did or didn’t do something?
This is not to say that problem solving can't be used to improve good situations. In fact you can use it in any situation where you can make a choice. Whether it's choosing between foods, methods for skill mastery or even sexual positions.