I hate the word good
Being good means you must be better than others. The problem with this has nothing to do with competition (I played poker for 14 years). The problem is I have no idea who I should compare myself to.
Just men, women or both? What ages? People living now, centuries ago or somewhere in between? People in my town, country, or the whole planet? Perhaps the universe? How lucky we are that in an infinite universe we get to be on earth, have consciousness and the internet. That's like hitting the lottery 30 days in a row (I just made that up).
We constantly shift our comparisons too. If we become millionaires we’ll compare houses, if we become billionaires we’ll compare Yachts. Comparisons aren't in your control, it’s an external.
"We have reached the heights if we know what it is that we find joy in and if we have not placed our happiness in the control of externals."
- Seneca Letters of a Stoic (my top 5 fav book)
We also compare different moments in time. We have our highest points, our lowest points and the in between. For example, in poker tournaments players will perceive a 100k stack as good if they had less earlier but bad if they had more (I’m guilty of this myself). If you give a monkey one banana he’s happy, if you give him two and take one away he’s unhappy.
Think about the times you were enjoying yourself or doing something wellwere you making comparisons? I don’t think so. In these times you’re absorbed by the moment, pulled in; almost as if against your will, effortlessly through the sheer force of your interest (and perhaps expression). Almost everyone calls this the fIow state but I love the word Zenith too, it means:
“ The time at which something is most powerful or successful”
Whatever you want to call it, we’ve all experienced it at least once. The concept of good and bad, comparison and even time diminishes or completely vanishes and hours can pass by in minutes. This is what I strive for. Not the feeling of superiority over others (although that feels great too). The End. If you want to learn more check out the links below.
Flow link 1: 19mins more descriptive but less exciting. Pros: BADASS leather jacket
Flow link 2 and 3: 2mins and 3mins long. Incredible, fascinating, visually stunning. Jason Silva is the GOAT listen to him on Rogan podcast Cons: Lots of big fanciful words (perhaps a pro if you're into that)
Easy flow book : Less detailed, but more fun stories about extreme athletes. Repetitive at times.
Hard book: More detailed. It's the same guy with the leather jacket.
Seneca quote: 2-3min read, if you just read that 1 letter.
Letters of a stoic: His entire book on amazon, in the above link is the whole book for free though.
Tim Ferriss blog on stoicism: A long read but Ferriss is the GOAT. You can also find podcasts by him in the link.
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